Organizing your Emotions 101
I recently wrote a blog Cultivating Self Mastery. I spoke about ways I learned to master myself and why it is important. In this blog, however; I will discuss something many may not realize is possible. As an organizer it is assumed, I am going to come to your home and show you where your shoes go. I mean I can, but my work runs so much deeper than that. I can help you organize your space; I can help you organize goal
s; I can help you organize and manage your time, but I also help with soul organization.
Imagine going on a vacation to return home leaving all the suitcases in the corner filled with clothes. Finally, you decide to unpack so you open up the suitcase and begin to unpack one thing at a time choosing the very thing on top until you work your way to the bottom. The more you unpack and place where it belongs the lighter the bag gets right? Use this same technique with our emotions to process them. Sometimes out of nowhere, I will get a weird feeling. I would then sit there to feeling it, journal it out to release it, and meditate to understand the root. This is how I unpack. Understanding brings about healing we miss out on because we choose to stuff things and put them away. Our souls need organizing because they are cluttered. Clutter has a list of detrimental effects be it your space or your soul. If a cluttered office can bring on anxiety can you imagine what your soul is going through?
Our emotions affect our behavior. Sometimes getting to the root of emotions means to trace the lie that we believe caused the emotion. Emotions influence our logic and productivity. I recall finding out a guy I was dating was seeing someone else the entire time. Upon discovering that information my entire workday was thrown off. As hard as I tried to focus emotionally, I was all over the place. I had to dump in my journal 20 minutes at a time for at least 3 days to gain control that I had lost. Emotions determine how we treat others and can continue unhealthy cycles. When we do not heal, we create was to cover who we are. These ways are usually unhealthy and that my friend becomes a generational problem. Take stock of your emotions and why you feel them. Master them, do not let them master you.
My emotions mastered me for years. I going to work early one morning. My mind was so cluttered with yesterday’s emotions that I failed to see any of the traffic lights being red. Before I knew it I was at my destination and receiving tickets in the mail because I ran several lights. Autopilot is not the way. I was not mindful and I paid for it, literally. It could have been worse because I could have been involved in an accident. At the time, I self-medicated with a ministry. I had my hands in a lot because indirectly I was taught to be faithful and do God’s work when I was leaking from broken glass. I tried running but I was labeled. I knew I needed help and I tried to voice that but I was shut down. I understand when people do not know they do not know. I discovered the healing and doing inner work via a dream and connecting with people via social media. My life has been changed by those connections.
Therapy can help with managing emotions. Find someone who specialized in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This helped me to grow as a person. I even purchased books and studied this modality further. I also journal. Whenever they are nagging emotions taking place, I unplug to write it down and identify the source. My dreams have even shown me my responses to situations and helped to trace where this came from. A lot of my problems traced to my childhood and not being affirmed. For a long time, I believed the lie that I was not worthy and I should have been thrown out like the Wednesday trash. This belief system showed up in every part of my life until I healed.
Want to organize your emotions start with these simple steps:
1. List problems or worries. Writing eases anxiety.
2. Discover if it is a pattern. Is this feeling necessary or is it controlling you? Emotions drive behavior, so check them often. When emotions are exaggerated, they become the reason we are stuck and unable to progress. Fear exaggerated is called a phobia.
3. Check common distortions at the door: Over-generalization, one bad situation means every situation will be this way. All-or-nothing thinking, there is no middle ground. It must be perfect or it’s a failure. Mental filtering, constantly focusing on the negative filtering out the positive. Jumping to conclusions, assuming how someone feels about you.
4. Purchase an Emotion Journal: Identify emotions, discover what you can change, track your changes.
Journal Prompt Questions
Identify the trigger.
What emotion did you feel?
What were your exact thoughts?
How did you react?
Could you, your thoughts, your thoughts, or your behavior have been different?
How can you create new thoughts or behaviors for the future?